What if you do not love your engagement ring?
by Sara Gibson
December 18, 2018 / Engagement Rings
It is the scenario that many women dread. What happens if he gets the engagement ring wrong?
What do you do if the moment you have been waiting for finally comes around, your partner gets down on one knee and that long-anticipated question is popped, ring box in hand. But in that very moment of sheer joy, he reveals the ring and every part of you goes numb. How could he have got it so wrong? In the moment, you do your best to disguise your disappointment and jump and squeal in delight. But lingering constantly in the back of your mind is an ever-growing dislike for your new ring.
It is a situation that nobody hopes for, but every now and then, it does happen. We always suggest acting with caution and treating the problem delicately. Remember, if your partner has surprised you with an engagement ring he thought you would love, chances are he has gone to great lengths to get it right.
So, what are your options?
Firstly, if the ring is a classic solitaire, a simple round brilliant diamond ring he probably thought this was the safest choice and one that he could not get wrong. It may not be the unique design you’d be dreaming of but it is the perfect design to come up with a creative solution when designing your wedding ring. You can use your wedding ring as an opportunity to turn your engagement and wedding ring set into a design that is a true reflection of you. Include colour, texture, diamonds or engraving. You are limited only by your imagination.
Have the chat
If you silently sigh in disappointment every time you look down at your hand, then it might be necessary to broach the subject. Treat this conversation with sensitivity being mindful of the thought and care that went into it. Explain how much you appreciate and love the effort that he went to, that it was the best surprise you could ask for and although you think the ring is lovely it is not what you had imagined. Perhaps suggest going back to the jeweller together and discuss making changes to the ring so it incorporates both of your ideas.
How to avoid him getting it wrong?
If you suspect that your other half might be thinking about proposing then it is time for you to jump one step ahead and start leaving hints. If you have something really specific in mind, the safe option might be to make him aware that you have a design in mind or that you would really love to be involved in the design process.
If you don’t want to have a discussion with your partner about the ring and prefer him to keep it a complete surprise, then it is a good idea to inform your closest friends and family of the style you want. That way they can ensure that he sets out on the right path avoiding any unwanted disappointment.